tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42967250440556986592024-03-13T12:27:40.551-07:00Being RealWhat does it take to be the full expression of ourselves? How do we know when we have fulfilled our potential or not?
What is it to be heard? What is the impact we have on others and they have on us? What kind of life are we creating for ourselves, everyday?
Are we being Conscious and Intentional about our lives?Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-26178668118374267692016-01-04T13:07:00.000-08:002016-01-04T13:07:57.540-08:00The path of least resistance - what is it and why does it matter?I remember reading this book many years ago (Robert Fritz) and clearly understanding the metaphor at least at an intellectual level. It goes like this, imagine a dry river bed, when it starts to rain the water naturally just runs into the groove in the land that has already been established over years of water flowing through it. Simple right and easy to understand?<br />
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So, how does that relate to us and human beings, easy again, we need to understand all our paths of least resistance, what are the grooves (neural pathways) that have been created within us that we will default to when it starts to rain? Not right or wrong that it happens, just important to be aware of them so that you can take responsibility for the impact it will have on your relationships, both professional and personal.<br />
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Also, it's good to recognise that whatever happens in any relationship, it is created by both of you. Once you get into blame, criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling (ignoring and disconnecting) then you are in the land of the relationship toxins and it is not a pleasant land to be in. I know myself that I can't bear to be shouted at, being in the gym by any class instructor (I actively avoid those teachers), I hired my Personal Trainer and designed that with him up front, I do not respond to being shouted at. This is also true for that matter of any of my other relationships. It takes me back to a time when I was young which clearly is an experience that I do not want to relive, and so I avoid it. Don't get me wrong I can be with conflict just not criticism, blame and the feeling of being attacked.<br />
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I used to go to a place of defensiveness and still go to stonewalling, I'm working hard on the defensiveness, I'm trying not to justify my position or go into who did what to whom. In the knowledge that although I have clearly had an unintended impact on the other person I know it was not intentional. So, I take responsibility for it and apologise. The stonewalling is more difficult for me, so what I'm learning at this stage is to eventually ask for what I want. For example if you try not to attack me, I will try not to go away... It is a (or should I say I am a) work in progress, as we all are!<br />
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Where have you experienced your path of least resistance over the holidays?<br />
What behaviours take you into the land of relationship toxins?<br />
Where do you need to take responsibility for an impact you had that was not intended, either personally or professionally?<br />
Communication is key and not easy to do, once the toxins are present!<br />
The other key is not to judge yourself just learn from it, in the hope that the more you learn, the less likely you are to repeat the pattern.... The truth is also that if you want to break an old pattern (which is true in my case) then you might have to go into toxin land at least for a while in order to create a more healthy relationship moving forwards.<br />
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More to come on this as I explore other relationships and more of my own paths of least resistance!<br />
Enjoy being curious about your paths!<br />
Happy New Year from Australia!<br />
Rx<br />
<br />Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-27855948577902968352015-04-29T07:23:00.001-07:002015-04-29T08:59:09.671-07:00The Evolution of Humans, Society and Organisations is here ... are you ready?<span style="color: #333333; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;">What is so important about our evolution is that it is happening much more quickly than ever before. When I think about the time I undertook my coach training program, it was over 10 years ago now and I was one of very few 'Corporate' people who were even thinking about, Coaching, not only as a profession but more importantly the impact that Coaching skills could have on the relationships in our Work and personal lives.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">This weekend was another classic example to me of how the Coaching profession has evolved. Back in the early days we used to get 'enlightened' individuals or people 'in between' professions. This weekend however I led a Fast Track Coach training course for CTI in London, it was full of professional people who wanted to combine the skills and ways of being Coach-like into their professions for the sake of creating a more human, humble, productive and profitable work environment. We had Dentists, Doctors, a Pilot and many other professions. People at the 'top of their game', professionally and who were hungry to have more experience in this kind of work. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">The experience of this weekend in itself is an evolution and after reading the book Reinventing Organisations by Fredrick Laloux http://www.reinventingorganizations.com/</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">it got me thinking about the evolution of society, the introduction of the internet and the move from Centralised Mainframe computers to completely distributed systems and then back to cloud, distributed authority with an agreed governance... and this is how organisations are moving. When you combine this evolution with the evolution of human beings from Generations X (mainframe), Generation Y (distributed) to Generation Z (distributed authority) it all starts to make sense.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Looking at Rodgers Adoption (posted above) and innovation curve put it all
into perspective for me, in every part of society there are Innovators, Early
adopters, Early Majority and so on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Where are you on the scale of growth and innovation in your own work and
life? As an employer, an employee, someone who works as a Coach, Leadership
Trainer or in Organisational change we all need to be paying attention to our
own evolution and the evolution of those around us. (see my last linkedin post
on Generation Z if you want to see what kind of socially intelligent, flexible,
emotionally aware people are about to join the workforce).</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">So, I am pointing you to check in with yourself, your
organisation and your friends and family.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>What are these new changes? How will they impact you? If all else fails
order and read the book. These are exciting times and you owe it to yourself to be ready for the changes ahead.... Enjoy Rx</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"></span></span></span></span>Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-23372249955816101832014-11-21T10:56:00.003-08:002014-11-21T10:56:26.868-08:00The Discipline of Leadership....In this blog I'm going to start to explain the context behind the Discipline of Leadership.<br />
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So, firstly Leadership is about a state of mind, a way of being.<br />
Secondly, it is about being Heart centred and people orientated.<br />
Thirdly, it's about taking action that holds people with respect and in high positive regard.<br />
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In this day and age when technology is critically important, it is also a commodity - yes, a commodity!<br />
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What is important is how we deploy the technology in order to maximise our return on investment.<br />
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Lets us not forget that, it is the people who deploy the technology, so it goes hand in hand to say, if we are going to invest in technology we have a responsibility to invest in the people who deploy it. <br />
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We must as Leaders invest in and grow the human capital within our Organisations be them, small or large businesses, whatever industry and whatever level of person. We, as Leaders, have to nurture and grow our people no matter how high or low their position within the company. We also have a responsibility to invest in our own growth and development too.<br />
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The basic principle of the Discipline of Leadership is that, it is, a people centred model that embraces paradox.<br />
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Firstly, we have to welcome creativity and innovation, including breakthrough thinking, whilst also having the structures and practises in place that enable our inventions and developments to become sustainable and have longevity. Too much innovation and nothing actually becomes usable and too much process and structure and there is no room for creativity and innovation.<br />
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The second Discipline is to take the time to be still and present to our employees and the market so that we can be curious about what is happening in the system. Whilst at the same time being aware of the natural cycles of life both in terms of people and business, this includes being tuned into the inter-relatedness and timing that effects the cycle of growth in people and business and how inter-related each of the cycles are both independently and collectively.<br />
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The third Discipline of Leadership is to balance the being and the doing of Leadership. Who you are being and how you are showing up, all has a huge impact on the actions you take and the decisions you make. You have to have the capacity to respond when faced with conflict, diverse views and when challenged, after all, this is what creates deep understanding, more meaningful relationships and more creative solutions to issues. We have to be able to separate personal from business in order not to be reactive and lash out at people. We have to know ourselves and have done enough personal development work to be calm and present in the face of challenges. All of this is in order to be present and to have the capacity to respond as well as to discern what the right action is.<br />
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The forth Discipline of Leadership is to know who you are and what you stand for. To know what your purpose is and to feel like you are working and living 'on purpose'. Once you know who you are and what your purpose is, not only do you trust yourself to take the right action, we also have the energy and passion to take risks, we give ourselves permission to play big and to be willing to challenge the 'status quo'. For the sake of having a bigger impact in the world. Whist at the same time inspiring and motivating those around you to do the same. <br />
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We hold that the Four Disciplines of Leadership create a paradigm shift that creates exciting changes in the world, it inspires people and motivates them into action, whilst also taking time to care for and grow the individual for the sake of what we can collectively create together.<br />
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More to come on the Discipline of Leadership in Future Blogs, this is just a starter for 10.<br />
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How does your Leadership measure up?<br />
Where is your growing Leadership edge?<br />
Are you having the impact you know you can?<br />
Are you playing to win and taking risks?<br />
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Thanks for reading and giving me the inspiration to keep writing. Rx<br />
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<br />Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-79745716985182330282014-06-19T09:09:00.000-07:002014-06-19T09:09:11.104-07:00What is it to expand your range and why does it matter?In Leadership training and Coaching we talk a lot about expanding our range. In this blog I'm going to explore, what's important about that? what does it give us? and why does it matter?<br />
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How big is your range as a human being?<br />
How do you measure it?<br />
You might of heard of the Johari Window, this is a simple model to think of how to expand your range. See below.....<br />
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Joharis Window</h1>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">The
Johari Window was developed by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingram, with the
idea that
through disclosure and feedback, individuals can learn more about
themselves
and build trust between themselves and others, improving their
relationships
and ability to work well together.</span></b></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">In
a supportive environment, using the Johari Window can be a good way to
get
feedback from others to enhance your understanding of yourself and how
other
people perceive you.</span></b></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">The Johari Window model is a four
quadrant grid that looks like this</span></b>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;"> <img alt="" border="0" hspace="" src="http://www.mystepto.com/artimages/Johari%20Window.jpg" vspace="" />Each
of
these quadrants would contain personal information about you. The
smaller the unknown quadrant, the higher your level of personal
awareness.</span></b></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt;">The Open Area </span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">is the
information about your feelings or motivation or capabilities that you know
about and others also know about.</span></b></div>
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<br /><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;"></span></b></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt;">The Blind Area </span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">represents your
blind spots. To open up this area, you need to obtain feedback. This feedback
will relate to both your strengths and weaknesses from other people’s
perspectives.</span></b></div>
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<br /><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;"></span></b></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt;">The Hidden Area </span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">represents the
things you know about yourself<span>
</span>which others do not know. Some of this information, you may keep to
yourself, some you may wish to share especially if you want to persuade someone
that you have capabilities they are not aware of.</span></b></div>
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<br /><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;"></span></b></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt;">The Unknown Area </span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">is the area
that is both unknown to you and to others. It may be a skill or a quality you
and others we quite unaware you had - it emerges as your experiences increase
and may be something you discover yourself or something you discover about
yourself with others.</span></b></div>
- See more at:
http://www.mystepto.com/article.php?section=know-your-capabilities&subsection=assessing-yourself&article=joharis-window#sthash.tfxfuMXh.dpuf</div>
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Joharis Window</h1>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">The
Johari Window was developed by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingram, with the
idea that
through disclosure and feedback, individuals can learn more about
themselves
and build trust between themselves and others, improving their
relationships
and ability to work well together.</span></b></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">In
a supportive environment, using the Johari Window can be a good way to
get
feedback from others to enhance your understanding of yourself and how
other
people perceive you.</span></b></div>
<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;"></span></b>
<br />
<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">The Johari Window model is a four
quadrant grid that looks like this</span></b>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;"> <img alt="" border="0" hspace="" src="http://www.mystepto.com/artimages/Johari%20Window.jpg" vspace="" />Each
of
these quadrants would contain personal information about you. The
smaller the unknown quadrant, the higher your level of personal
awareness.</span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt;">The Open Area </span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">is the
information about your feelings or motivation or capabilities that you know
about and others also know about.</span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;"></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt;">The Blind Area </span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">represents your
blind spots. To open up this area, you need to obtain feedback. This feedback
will relate to both your strengths and weaknesses from other people’s
perspectives.</span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;"></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt;">The Hidden Area </span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">represents the
things you know about yourself<span>
</span>which others do not know. Some of this information, you may keep to
yourself, some you may wish to share especially if you want to persuade someone
that you have capabilities they are not aware of.</span></b></div>
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<br /><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;"></span></b></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt;">The Unknown Area </span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 9.5pt;">is the area
that is both unknown to you and to others. It may be a skill or a quality you
and others we quite unaware you had - it emerges as your experiences increase
and may be something you discover yourself or something you discover about
yourself with others.</span></b></div>
- See more at:
http://www.mystepto.com/article.php?section=know-your-capabilities&subsection=assessing-yourself&article=joharis-window#sthash.tfxfuMXh.dpuf</div>
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So as an explanation we will start with the simple top left hand section first. The known to self and others. The more you ask for feedback (or feed forward as I like to call it). Questions like where do I excel and what could I do to have more impact? the more you will expand the pane that is unknown to self. The second way to expand that section is to disclose more of 'who you are' to others, and you can do that by being more vulnerable or just knowing and living by your Values. Energetically, you will evoke the field around you and it will be clear to people 'who you are' and 'what you stand for'. I've talked before in my blogs about having conscious intentional impact and this would be a place to check in with people. This is what I intended, am I having this impact? <br />
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So, what does all of this have to do with range?<br />
I'm coming to that, the next thing I want to address is how do you expand the bottom right hand box, which is unknown to self and unknown to other. Well by doing the former, that will help, of course. However, the best way to become aware of that area is to expose yourself to new experiences, go and spend some time as a volunteer, or take a sabbatical and travel the world, do things that are the opposite of the things you think you enjoy and notice the impact on you and your energy when you do. So, if you like to be warm and dry, put yourself in a situation where you are wet and cold, see which version of yourself shows up then, are you still resourceful when you are wet and cold or do you turn into scarey-eyed bread knife monster??? (I am of course, referring to your Gremlin when I say that).<br />
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I'm serious, how can you ever know what your true capacity is until you get outside your comfort zone and see what happens when you are stretched. Of course, you could get a Coach or go on a Leadership training programme and it can be easier than that too. <br />
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I remember when I volunteered for the Olympics and Paralympics, I basically didn't have a clue what I was doing, having never worked at a major sporting event before. Yet, I'd loved sport all my life and I worked with people all my life, so how hard would it be to bring the two of them together. I walked 100's of miles in those 4 weeks, worked every day bar 3, was exhausted and totally and completely fulfilled. I loved every minute of it, even when people shouted at me (and that happened a few times) and I learned from it and didn't take it personally.<br />
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So, what does this have to do with range?<br />
Well, the more access you have to your full emotional range, the more you can experience life, and the more people you can interact with. When people first start to become aware of their values they can take a perspective on them which is one of 'my values are right and yours are wrong, because yours are different than mine'. The reality is of course, that no values are wrong, they are just different. So, how do you take a stand for your values when people around you do not share the same values? The more you can do that, in different circumstances the more you can increase your range.<br />
How do you keep hold of yourself on the 'inside' when you are surrounded by chaos? Or don't you?<br />
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The key to expanding your range is being willing to get outside your comfort zone to explore the zone of your unleashed potential, and to keep hold of yourself in the process. <br />
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How are you expanding your range? What is your impact? What do you want your impact to be?<br />
Enjoy the exploration.<br />
RxRonnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-33205500234419953982014-04-08T07:27:00.000-07:002014-04-08T07:27:00.075-07:00Conscious II and the 'ripples' we create.....So, picking up from where I left off....<br />
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In order to have any idea of the ripples we are sending out we need to be conscious to what perspective we are in at any given time. Are you aware of the perspective you are in? Or do you just dive out of bed every morning and let the world get hold of you on the outside before you have gotten hold of yourself on the inside?<br />
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Most leaders in life have some kind of daily practice that helps them to get centered and grounded and intentional about their day, that is, before they jump into the doing of every day life. I know for me personally it took me 10 years of personal development (moving towards consciousness) and 2 years of solid commitment to practice every day in order to have any chance of being conscious and aware of my ripples. <br />
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Of course, the art is not to try hard at being conscious all of the time, the art is to notice when you have drifted off and just bring yourself back (or more puppy training as I referred to it in the last blog).<br />
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Are you living you life in a 'life affirming' way? with good intentions and trusting that (although you might not like everything it deals out) life is unfolding just the way it is meant to. Life is just perfect as it is and we should avoid at all costs, being a perfectionist! That was what one of my teachers used to say to me....<br />
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So, lets start with Self,<br />
What is your attitude towards yourself?<br />
Are you kind and considerate of your feelings?<br />
Do you nurture yourself?<br />
Are you 'fair' in your internal dialogue?<br />
Are you life affirming in your dealings with yourself?<br />
Are you aware of your value system and the things that are important to you?<br />
Do you have a vision of the life that you are creating for yourself?<br />
Do you know what your purpose is?<br />
Do you have goals that helping you to take steps towards it?<br />
Do you know how to be in relationship with yourself and others?<br />
Are you able to be present to the now and experience life in each moment? <br />
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Is the answer yes or no to these questions?<br />
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If yes, I'd imagine that life feels exciting and alive and that you can't wait to get out of bed in the morning. Your ripples will be positive and you'll generally be a joy to be around, you will be balanced in your work and life and you will work to live rather than the other way around.<br />
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You'll be in internally validated and you'll be playing to win. Although you may not win all the time you will not focus on your failures, you will take time to reflect and contemplate them, you will take the learning and you will put it in your pocket and move on, making sure that you appreciate the experiences and use the learning moving forwards.<br />
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You do not dwell on the past and regret things you can not change, you do not make bad things up about the future and frighten yourself to death based upon something you just 'made up'. You do not try and control others, you are not compliant either and you do not isolate yourself or separate yourself from others. This would mean you are externally validated and are 'playing not to lose'.<br />
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What ripples are you sending out to the world, just by how you are being in relationship with yourself. Are they positive, life affirming ripples of contentment and confidence that make others feel safe in your company?<br />
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Or are the ripples or command and control that feed your ego and make people feel threatened and insecure around you? Are the ripples of dependency and insecurity where you ask for more than you need because you do not trust yourself or those around you?<br />
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How is your relationship with yourself and what ripples does it send out to those around you?<br />
<br />Enjoy being curious? and be kind to yourself at the same time... no matter what you find.<br />
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<br />Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-88634639709820068942014-03-30T08:50:00.000-07:002014-03-30T08:50:11.558-07:00Consciousness and the 'Ripples' we send outIt's about ripples....<br />
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Imagine a large lake with clear still water and imagine you are standing on the bank, you pick up a stone and throw it into the center of the lake and then, with a 'plop' the stone lands in the center and disappears, yet the ripples it sends out are there for some time once the stone is gone. I believe our ripples last long after we are gone too!<br />
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I believe we are all, always sending out ripples, I know I am and I know sometimes that I forget especially when I got back to habitual motion or when I go unconscious. Just a little 'side bar' for a moment, I was just reminded of a beautiful metaphor that I stole from my Sister.... It goes like this...<br />
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When we start this work of consciousness our brains are like a puppy, they wander off all over the place and all we have to do is to notice that we have wandered off and bring ourselves back. I giggle all the time about this metaphor as often my puppy has broken free and is off in the distance somewhere... rather than running hard to catch it, I have to simply remember that I can call it back and it will come - that usually entails a couple of deep breaths and centering of my energy. <br />
How are you guys doing with your 'puppy' training?<br />
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Anyway, back to ripples, energetic ripples, what ripples are you sending out? I know for myself, I have not always being conscious about them, what I also know is there are more ripples than we think. There are the situational ripples which of course are important and there are the ripples of how you live your life. Are you living your life in a life-affirming way, for the good of humanity, yourself, your relationships, your workmates, your colleagues, your community, your world?<br />
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Are you even conscious of the ripples you are sending out? So, lets explore some scenarios, my other favorite (other than the puppy metaphor) analogy of the moment is the one of the Drama or Tricksters Triangle. You see it in every fairy story and most films and the roles are that of, the Victim, Villain and the Hero and by the way NONE of these roles are positive roles to play in life or work and yet we all do play them and most of the time unconsciously.<br />
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The next thing to say is you may not even know you are being cast in any of these roles, because other people put us in them, and also we normally do have a favoured role that we step into. So, to explain further; the Victim's perspective is, it's not my fault, I can't change anything, it's being done to me and it keeps happening - I have no power! The Victim, creates the Villain - the person who is doing 'it' to them, more often than not, this Villain is an Organisation, you know its 'them'. Similarly, the Victim also wants to be rescued, so they will always cast someone else in the Hero role, this is the one who gets parachuted in to fix the problem (or to feed their Ego), when we do this, when we play the role of the Hero we ensure that their are plenty of Victims around for us to Rescue, and where there is a Victim there is always a Villain. <br />
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So, the place to look is, which is your most common or favoured role? Where do you step into the triangle? and who do you cast in the other roles? Also pay attention to who casts you in certain roles, as a people manager or a specialist you can often be looked to as the Hero. The thing is that Hero's don't empower people, they dis-empower them. Oh and one other thing is that these roles do not stay the same for long, because more often than not we step into these roles in order to place blame or be defensive and the minute we do that, we become the Villain or the Victim!<br />
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So, the point is, the only way to get out of the Triangle is to be conscious (get puppy training!) and to see what is happening, in your family system, at work, in your community - in any relationship! Once you are conscious, then it is all about asking yourself ; What is needed for the sake of the bigger picture? For the growth of the employee; for the desired outcome of the project; to improve Customer Satisfaction....<br />
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I'll come back to ripples on another blog as this is a longer post than I had planned. Start to get that 'puppy training', start to notice where you go unconscious.... and find a way to bring yourself back and once you are back, start to pay attention to where you see the Drama or Tricksters triangle play out in your life.... It can be fun to notice it, and be aware the hardest role to step out of is the Hero! and that's because our Ego loves to be the Hero!Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-76467086708053021992013-12-06T11:36:00.000-08:002013-12-06T11:36:37.298-08:00Madiba - How one man changed the world......I have been surprised at the impact Nelson Mandela's death has had on me. I have been in tears many, many times since I heard the news. One part of me was so happy for him that he is now at peace and resting in the quiet and another part of me longs for him to still be here to hold the reconciliation that he fought so strongly for. I also realise as I write that this man changed me, changed me personally, he gave me the belief that one person can make a difference, that when you stick to your values and are willing to 'fight' for what is 'right' you can, and will have an impact in the world.<br />
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I was with a Coaching client this morning at 8am and what surprised both of us is that I needed to speak my sadness at the loss of Madiba before I could continue with the call. I was in tears! I said I had been thinking, would I be willing to go to prison for all those years in order to take a stand for what I believed in, my initial reaction was, no, I'm not sure I would. Then I remembered that he was actually taking a stand for his children and his grand children, he was determined that they would not have to live a life of in-equality and that was what he fought for. Am I willing to take a stand for that, YES, do I have children of my own to fight for? NO, are there generations of other people's kids that are worth fighting for, god damn it YES..... I often say to my Coaches in training - I want to thank you from the children of your clients, because that is the work you are choosing to do, to change and shift the generations to come.<br />
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So, for me Madiba took a stand for his people, all of us, not just the black people who of course were being treated very badly, but he took a stand for all of us, for the wholeness that comes from being inclusive, from appreciating everyone and everything in life. We might not like everything and everyone and there is always something to appreciate.<br />
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For me Nelson Mandela stands for Freedom, for Life, for Change and for humanity. I feel in deep appreciation that I was alive at a time where I could be influenced by such a huge figure and one who carried himself with such humility. I remember reading 'long walk to freedom' over 20 years ago and being staggered by the fact that having completed his BA, he had no idea of his own personal history or that of his tribe. This experience made me think deeply about my life and my history and the footprints I want to leave behind me for others to walk in.<br />
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Madiba you are an inspiration, you are the definition of Leadership and you model a beautiful mix of 'generative power' and 'generative love' to the people. A hearty mix that changes the world. See Adam Kahne's book 'Power and love' for the definition. I felt the urge to write today, I'm glad I took the time to put finger to keyboard. May the world send loving energy to Madiba so that his transition from his human overcoat to that of his spirit be easy and flowing, so that he continues to inspire and motivate us.<br />
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Thank you Nelson Mandela. Tata Madiba!<br />
These are my words<br />
RxRonnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-20447501399445260192013-09-24T10:48:00.000-07:002013-09-24T10:48:02.903-07:00The importance of Coaching.....I was commissioned recently or should I say challenged to write an article on Coaching and why it matters in one side of A4 only..... this is what I came up with. Enjoy Rx<br />
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<span lang="EN-GB">The Importance of Coaching……</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">You will notice by the Title of this piece
that we are talking a stand that Coaching is important.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">We think it is important because it helps
people to grow and we were put on this planet to grow, as human beings that is
part of the evolution of the human race, to grow, it’s that simple.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">So, how does Coaching make you grow?</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">Coaching is a journey of self-awareness, it
is about being more conscious of who you are, by becoming aware of your value
system, that is, the things that inspire and motivate you to live a life of
Vitality.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It will also make you aware
of<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>what you stand for, the things that
you want to make real in the world, your legacy, the things you are passionate
about, therefore helping you to become clearer about your purpose and the
direction you want to take your life in.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">In addition, to helping you to see who you
are and what you stand for, it will also help you understand some of the
limiting beliefs that you might have about yourself and about the world and how
it works.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These negative energies can
have us, either going around in circles or stuck in a place of lots of
brain-mind activity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These are the
places were we use lots of thinking energy and can end up taking little or no
action.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We refer to these activities as
Gremlins or Saboteurs.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">Fundamentally, Coaching is about having you
step up to be a Leader in your own life; it is about stepping away from victim-hood and into taking charge so that you can create the outcomes you
want.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In my experience Coaching is a
gateway into personal Leadership and it will allow you to have more impact with
less effort in every aspect of your life. </span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">Coaching is also about freeing up energy
that one can waste on negative thoughts, judgements or criticisms of yourself
and those around you and moving that energy into positive, life affirming ways
of being, with yourself, your partner, your family and your work. </span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">Often these days we are ‘trained’ in the
art of getting things done and this is indeed very important.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, one needs to also make sure we are
paying attention to who we are being, in the doing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You know we are Human Beings and not Human
Doings!</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">Coaching will help you to connect with your
identity more, help you to trust yourself more and therefore help you to be calmer
and more confident in yourself and your abilities.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When one trusts one-self, it gives out an
energy that is compelling to others.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You
know what it feels like to be in the presence of someone who ‘has presence’ vs
someone who does not.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">By trusting yourself, understanding your
value system and having a view of the purpose and direction you want to take
your life in, it will give you clarity, it will help you to decide where to put
your energy and how not to waste it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>When you get clear about where to put your energy, it will help you to
make more powerful choices about your life and it will help you to be present
to the experiences are having, as opposed to regretting the past or making
things up about the future, which is what your Gremlin or Saboteur would have
you do with your energy.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">Coaching will also improve your emotional
intelligence and help you to use your energy in more impactful ways. Emotions
are just ‘energy in motion’, they are meant to move and flow, and working with
a Coach will train you in ways to use your emotions in a powerful, life
affirming way; for the benefit of yourself and those around you.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-GB">I believe that everyone who wants to be
emotionally healthy should have a Coach, it is like hiring a personal trainer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The bottom line is that Coaching helps you
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Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-63121439380326884752013-05-24T01:52:00.001-07:002013-05-28T02:18:38.231-07:00What a great Metaphor nature can be......Just a short post to share a little story with you....<br />
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I was gardening a few weeks ago, you know clearing flower pots and preparing for Spring and Summer planting. I came across a pot which had Lilies in it, and was disappointed to see only one left.<br />
When I looked closer I noticed that actually there were two Lilies in the pot but one of them had got itself caught under the rim of the pot and was growing sideways along the rim at a right angle.<br />
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The flower was strong and I could see how hard it had been pushing along that rim in the darkness, desperately looking for the light. So, I did the best I could to release the flower from being trapped in the rim of the pot, of course, not wanting to damage it in anyway. I eventually managed to release it, with a lot of care and attention, knowing that I couldn't release it without a few scrapes and scars.<br />
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As I look at the flower now, it is strong, twice as strong as the Lily that didn't get caught up and trapped in the rim of the pot. It has a few scars on its leaves and a bend in its stem which is hardly visible. I also notice that the new growth is beautiful and green and you would never know it had been trapped for that long, never knowing if it would get released.<br />
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I see the flowers starting to form and I know that they will be beautiful and bright and there will not be any sign of the history, that had this plant follow a path that it was never meant to take.<br />
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So, as I share this story with you, I am reminded of what a metaphor it is for my own life. I was trapped for many years, in the belief that we were separate as human beings, in the belief that we are conditioned to compete, and living in a world that is fashioned in a way that people think they have to be significant and in order for that to be true, it has to be at someone else expense! The belief that we had to separate ourselves in order to be number one and win... In a world where we get trained that wealth equals happiness, in a job that didn't show my talents, in a life that was not fulfilling, not really - I mean on the surface no one knew, except I knew, in my heart that there was more to life than that.<br />
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So, I pushed on in the dark, in the paradox of not knowing and really knowing that I could find the light.<br />
Thanks to some very fine Gardeners, you know who you are, I managed to release myself from that trap, to stretch myself and to risk reaching for the light. I got a few scars along the way, my bruises healed and my core got strong again. <br />
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I found a world where co-operation is key, where we can learn from nature and the universe, after all it has been around a lot longer than we have! The basis of nature is co-operation and democracy, it is within our DNA, it is how we are made.<br />
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Nature teaches us to use only what we need, and to leave enough for others to survive, it teaches us that when one plant or animal dominates it usually leads to extinction. Lets learn from the world around us, that we are living things, who are a part of nature and can collaborate and co-operate with nature and each other to ensure the survival of all.<br />
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My life is fulfilled and my direction and purpose is clear, my commitment is strong. Just like the Lily!<br />
Keep your eye out for metaphor's that speak to you.<br />
Rx Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-28377841565592900202013-02-10T09:01:00.004-08:002013-02-10T09:01:55.427-08:00How are you doing energetically?....I meant to post this months ago and never got around to it..... so here we go....<br />
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It's a New Year right! Are you full of excitement about the possibility of what this next year will bring?<br />
Are you setting your intentions, in order that you clearly and consciously create the experiences you want to create during 2013.<br />
You know, if new years resolutions alone worked, then us Coaches and Leadership trainers would be out of work.<br />
So, how is it for you? Are you directing your energy into making that resolution become real or will it just sit on the 'shelf' of good ideas along side all the other new years resolutions? Are they really resolutions or are you just 'in love' with the idea of them? <br />
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Here is what I know, I know that as I get older I have to pay attention to my energy levels, they are not what they used to be when I was in my 20's and 30's. My whole body is changing, and as you all know, our bodies change, at a cellular level every 7 years. I have just started my 8th cycle of 7 year cycles and I can already tell that this one is different.<br />
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For example, my fitness does not last as long as it did. I used to be able to take 3 or 6 months out of the gym with little or no impact, not now my friends, I have to stay 'on it' in order to ensure that I look and feel healthy. I noticed over Christmas the lbs were starting to creep back on again after a period of about 4 months were I made little or no time available to keep my health and fitness in the forefront of my consciousness. I knew it was happening, and yet, I allowed other things to become a priority.<br />
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Something strange happened when I was out for a run this morning. I should back track, sorry. I was inspired by my niece to go for a run with her on 30th Dec. I'm not a runner, I never have been, I love being out in nature, I'm not even bothered by the rain. Bottom line is that running and me have never been buddy's.<br />
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So, off I went with her and ended up doing to 2 mile run, it didn't kill me and I stopped when I had to (usually going up hill) and it was OK. I actually felt pretty good when I got back. So, I have done the same run every morning since then, that is 6 mornings last week. I feel pretty good about it too.<br />
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Anyway, what I noticed on morning of the third run was that, the old Gemlin voices came back, oh! is cold, oh! maybe you could go for a long walk instead! Blah Blah Blah... What I did was new to me, I just decided to shift that energy, simply move it from my head to my heart, using my breathing (it does take practise) and guess what happened. My heart-mind said, yes its a beautiful crisp Winters day and your body will love you, even more, if you take it out for that run. It was magical.<br />
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As I was out on my run I noticed how much easier the whole thing felt, and how I was in more of a 'can do' attitude to the whole experience. Something has shifted in me. This might not sound like a big deal to any of you, let me tell you that I have tried to like running for the last 30 years and all the time I was self talking, 'just a little further', or 'you can stop when you get to x', on and on the head noise went, until this week when I managed to quiet it down, how much more enjoyable the runs have been. I have run further and for longer and enjoyed them more..... as I said Magical!<br />
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So, if you are like me and want to make some of those intentions for 2013 real, please start to notice where you are putting your energy. Is it into the excuses of why you shouldn't do the things you have set out to do?<br />
Is your energy in your Brain-mind which talks a lot about what you will do, which makes you an expert having lots and lots of information but actually you never get around to do anything.<br />
Or is it coming from your Heart-mind which knows how to nurture and care for yourself and knows that health and fitness is the key to sustainability and longevity.<br />
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I have been physically fit for most of my life and reasonably trim, although I had a big wobble when I hit the menopause for a couple of years. What I know is that my body and mind respond well to exercise and I am a happier and healthier person when I engage in it. We also know what when we move we shift our energy too and with practice we can shift it by choice.... honestly!<br />
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I am also aware that I have just bust wide open my biggest excuse for not exercising when I am away from home. There's no gym for me to go to.... now I don't need a gym!<br />
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I guess the other thing I noticed is the before my 'break through' I was doing the running by pure will power, forcing myself to go, now I am doing coming from a place of wanting to run and enjoying it. I am <i>doing </i>the same thing (running) and yet I am <i>being</i> very different in the doing and it is so much more fun this way! <br />
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Where are you getting in your own way?<br />
Where are you saying you want one thing and then doing something else?<br />
Where are you in denial?<br />
Is your energy in your head, creating a lot of noise or head-talk as I like to call it? <br />
What will it take to step up and put your energy firmly into the life you want to create, rather than the one you have?<br />
I believe that anything is possible, you just have to want it enough (I'm not talking about material things) and be willing to make the effort to make it real. You have to want it enough to use your Will Power to make it happen.<br />
Enjoy exploring, or simply noticing where this resonates with you.<br />
If this doesn't resonate with you, well good for you. I'm in awe!<br />
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Bye the way for the record one of my intentions for 2013 is to feel fit and healthy and if I can lose a few pounds along the way, all be better! <br />
Happy New Year everyone Rx<br />
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<br />Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-53822892961915768702012-12-10T07:50:00.000-08:002012-12-10T07:50:20.465-08:00Paying Attention to the impact we have....It is interesting to me to 'simply notice' that we all (sweeping generalisation) go about not really thinking about the impact we want to have. No really, in every interaction you are having with everyone you are with, everyone you talk to, or not, you are having an impact - don't you think that it would be powerful to be conscious about the impact you want to have? I quote myself from the realisation I had of this, I said 'I'm having an impact anyway, I may as well be conscious of what I want that impact to be!'.<br />
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So, why don't we do this? What stops us bringing a positive energy into the discussions we have with loved ones, for instance? I know for me personally, I am more likely to think about it before I do my work, before a Coaching call or before leading a workshop and definitely before I go to an important meeting. Yet, when it comes to the people I love, rarely do I think about the energy I want to bring into those discussions.<br />
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I wondered for years about 'unintended impact', is that about me? or is it about the other person? does it matter if its not intentional? and what became clear to me recently is that it really does matter, and not just with the interactions with other, but also with the interactions I have with myself.<br />
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If I am at peace with myself and being kind, loving, nurturing and nourishing to myself, physically, mentally and emotionally then the energy I bring to my relationships with others, is kind, loving, etc etc... and I can be less conscious because I know it is my 'way of being', if however, I am not being all those positive things then I will bring another kind of energy to my relationships!<br />
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How are you in relationship with yourself?<br />
How do you talk to yourself?<br />
How balanced is your life? and I don't just mean work and home...<br />
How do you nurture yourself and nourish yourself, physically, mentally and emotionally?<br />
What energies do you bring to those around you?<br />
Are they intentional energies? Or unconscious?<br />
What is your intended or unintended impact?<br />
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Dig around, see what you find. Be curious about what you become aware of, don't judge yourself - it is what it is. The real question is, What do you want to do about it? Or even how do you want to BE about it!<br />
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Sending love to you all and as we prepare for Christmas around the world, bring positive loving energy to those you love, take care of yourself and love and nurture yourself and those around you. As you do this 'simply notice' the impact on yourself and others........RxRonnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-45288309128250790492012-10-09T01:23:00.002-07:002012-10-09T01:23:18.309-07:00What have your created?.... and more importantly, is it what you want?<div>
Where do I start with this topic, it has been brewing
within me now for
weeks and I have been unable to put finger to keyboard.</div>
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So, lets start here - What is the life you have created? </div>
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Is it alive, do you feel the blood pumping through your veins every day and
think YES! this is exactly the life I want to live?</div>
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So, if not, why not?</div>
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As I said to a client the other day, If not YOU, then WHO and if not NOW,
then WHEN? Well?</div>
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So what are we waiting for?</div>
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What's stopping us?</div>
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Let me have a stab at answering that question from my own personal
perspective... and let me say at this stage, that I have a great life, I
travel, I have great friends, I fantastic job, wonderful experiences
and there is still one thing missing!</div>
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So, here is what I know about me - what stops me in having the life I want,
is the patterns and behaviours and traps of the past which I keep repeating over
and over again in my life!</div>
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Yes, and you guessed it, of course, I keep blaming other people for them or
worse than that, I don't actually take personal responsibility and take a stand
for myself and say, OK well if this is what you truly, then what is stopping
you having it.</div>
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And, we all know it's not that simple either, there are mortgages and bills
to pay, kids to educate and feed blah, blah, blah, blah. Most of them are Gremlins anyway...... typically.</div>
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I have been saying for the last 10 years of my life that I want to have a Partner
who will love me and trust me and live life to the full with me and, as yet,
this superman has not materialised. I wonder why?</div>
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Well let me tell you why, because I keep being tempted back into and old
relationship, which does not serve me, which is not healthy for either of us and
which does not fulfill either of us. Why do I keep going back? Because, it’s familiar, I know
how to be in it, the brokenness of it's circumstances are cosy. <i id="yui_3_2_0_67_1349471950067173"><br />
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So, I am breathing now because I want to share with you a discovery I made
this week about my own personal behaviour which has 'blown my socks off'. I
realised that because of my interpretation of the way I was brought up, I created
a belief around love and connection, that means (up until now) it is my
responsibility to make sure that I ensure harmony, personally, in any loving
relationship that I have had, and, that it is not a dual responsibility, that it my
sole role.</div>
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It comes from having a Father who was not emotionally intelligent, who was
educated by his parents that, if you wanted kids to do as they were told, you
just stopped talking to them and engaging with them when they did something
bad. And, that you only reengaged with them when they had pleased you
enough that you knew you were back in charge and that they wouldn't do that
thing again, at least, not for a while anyway.</div>
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Can you imagine how frustrating that was for me as a Child, when all I
wanted to know was why this? or why that? how does this work? how come
that
family is different to ours? one of the unwritten rules was you never
ask questions like that, you know, the ones that are hard to answer.<br />
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I
was christened Kissinger by my family when I
was in my 20's because I was the one who <i>always</i> made the peace in the family (or at least this is how I remember it),
between Brothers and Sisters, Husbands and Wives, Kids and Parents etc. until I
reached the point where I was exhausted and I refused to do it any
longer. Little did I know that by then the 'seed' was planted and I was
going to do that in all my intimate relationships for the foreseeable future,
or the next 30 years to be precise!</div>
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What was the question that uncovered this 'little gem' for me? I asked
myself, why it is always me who reaches out to people to resolve conflicts, and where did that come from? There were a lot of
conflicts in our house. Not the useful ones, where you
are embrace each others difference, and create some new understanding from that, the ones where one
person was right, (usually the older one or the one who could shout the loudest)
and the other was wrong. That was, of course, just the opinion of one
person in the discussion but it seemed to create a false sense of achievement
to them that they had 'won' something or achieved something my pretending that
them perceiving themselves to be right had actually made any difference in
resolving anything.</div>
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Anyway, don't get me wrong here, I know my Parents did the best job they
could, under the circumstances, and I love them dearly. Where I am pointing you
to look, is where you did, like me, take on a belief about something that
actually does not belong to you and was never yours in the first place.
And, if you find that belief is stopping you being fulfilled, keeping you
in a relationship you don't want or a job you don't enjoy or a career that
turns you cold. Then ask yourself, what am I waiting for? What's stopping
me?</div>
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And if you need one, or haven't already got one, then go get a Coach or
someone who can help you dig into this self limiting belief so that it stops
having such a hold over you. </div>
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Why?
So, that you can create the life you really do want to lead.</div>
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Don't do like I did and wait all these years to work it out! </div>
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I feel like I have freed up 30 years of 'being stuck' around this topic, quite an amazing experience!</div>
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There is a lot more I could say around this discovery and suffice to
say, I think I have said enough for you to get the gist of where I am
pointing you. </div>
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Wishing you happiness and joy!</div>
Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-8396266731962196572012-07-16T01:49:00.002-07:002012-07-16T03:44:27.661-07:00What is Emotional intelligence and why does it matter?......Good question eh? So, when you read the books it says it is our innate or inbuilt ability to feel, manage, articulate blah blah blah our emotions and that is true. The point that many of the text books miss out on is that we are not trained to be emotionally intelligent, we all (or most of us at least) have the inbuilt ability to access and practice this intelligence and yet we do not know how to use it, in a life affirming, adult way.<br /><br />So, it feels like time to make some distinctions. Emotional intelligence is our ability to RESPOND, as opposed to REACT or be triggered. If we are to respond we have to be conscious and be in choice about how we want to respond. If we react usually we are in habitual motion or unconscious, and not in choice about how we react or what the impact of that reaction is.<br />To respond we need to be open, available, alert and centered, when we react we are usually closed, protected, tense and unbalanced.<br /><br />Just a side note here to say that lots of people will do anything to avoid emotions full stop. Bad habits around smoking, eating, drinking and working typically come from the need or desire to avoid emotion. It is meant to move of flow e-motion, energy in motion or life force.<br /><br />If we are to be in our Self-Authority (or Authentic) we consciously know that are authors of our own lives, we can decide how we respond to external events and we can choose the impact that external events have on us. Once we really start to author our own lives we become much more aware of how important it is to care for ourselves, each other and the environment around us.<br />What good are we if we give all of ourselves to others? Eventually, we become empty with nothing left to give - like a dry or empty well. Nurturing yourself and refilling your well is important if you are to be of service to others.<br /><br />In order to choose consciously you have to do your own work around what triggers you? Where do you loose consciousness? What are the circumstances where you get triggered? Emotional Intelligence is about having a healthy relationship with your full emotional range, so that your emotions are stable and flexible all at the same time. <br /><br />As leaders we need access to our full emotional range, so that we can have the impact we are meant to have. What do I mean by that, OK well, lets say I can't be with arrogance, my own or other peoples, so what do I do when I come across arrogance, well if I can't be with it I will do anything to avoid it or people or situations where it shows up. So, then arrogance chooses for me. However, if I can be with arrogance (I don't have to like it, just have the emotional range to be with it) then when it shows up, I can still function and I can choose my response to it, it might be to meet arrogance with arrogance, it may be to choose some other way of responding. <br /><br />It is critical that we stay in choice around our emotions, if we are to live 'on purpose' and have the impact we want to have in the world. If we want to have a big impact then we will come across hurdles and situations and people that stretch us emotionally and we need to know how to consciously choose our response to those situations. <br /><br />I had a similar situation myself in this last week, and I know that breathing helps too!<br />Enjoy exploring your triggers and what they cost you, with a view to doing your work to expand your emotional range. Please do not judge yourself or what you find. This is powerful and gentle work. Enjoy!Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-7415700010855623652012-05-23T06:52:00.001-07:002012-05-23T06:53:07.454-07:00Taking responsibility and noticing the traps you create.....I am currently at the start of one of the 'biggest' leadership training programmes of my life. I have specialised in this work for nearly 10 years now and each step I take is bigger and deeper than I ever imagined. In a way I wonder if I am losing touch with the 'real' world, you know the world where all that matters is status, power, material belongings and who is 'right' all the time.<br />The world where what we are 'doing' is more important than who we 'being'.<br /><br />We are so attached to 'doing', it's like success is measured on ones ability to do loads of stuff. If you've seen Brene Browns latest TEDTALKS video you'll know that the biggest cause of 'shame' in the western world today for Women is when they are not able to get everything done, around the house and at work and still look great, be slim and not even break out in a sweat whilst juggling all of that stuff. For Men it is all about not showing weakness, and us Women are the biggest cause of Men not wanting to show weakness, because we want them to be strong for us, for the kids, in order to make the family feel safe. It's all about doing and looking great all of the time.<br /><br />Well, I'd like to offer another perspective on the world. What if we spent more time focusing on who we are being, rather than what we are doing. What if we put our energy into be open and available, to being in relationship with our family and friends, getting to know colleagues or neighbours or even better, those we don't call friends and neighbours, those who piss us off, or make us angry because they are reflecting a part of ourselves right back at us that we are not willing to own. What if we really took responsibility for the lives that we are creating every day and stopped blaming other people for what has happened, and stop trying to change everyone else!<br /><br />I was recently introduced to learning around 'traps', the thinking is that we all fall into them and ideally we should notice we have done so, try to get out and then take time to reflect on how it happened so that we can change our behaviour in order not to fall into the same trap again. Simple, right? The other thing to add is that if we don't take time to reflect and learn and adapt our behaviour then we shouldn't be surprised if we keep falling into the same traps over and over again... Have a think about it in your own life... where do you keep falling into the same patterns and blaming others for the circumstances you find yourself trapped in? If there is a lesson we need to learn, I'm pretty sure that those circumstances will keep happening until we have learned how to avoid them.<br /><br />So, here's the deal. Stop blaming others, either change the circumstances or change your attitude towards them, otherwise you are keeping yourself stuck and miserable and I can't imagine for one moment that that is much fun!<br /><br />I can think of a situation in my life, which is a trap - at this stage I have decorated it, I have curtains, carpets and even wall hangings! For 10 years I keep walking right back into the same trap, these days I do it consciously and I don't blame anyone else for creating it. Can you believe that I keep expecting things to work out differently and guess what, they never do. This is last time, is the last time (I do say that all the time, just a word of warning) that I am falling into the trap. <br /><br />What about you, what traps do you keep falling into?<br />Are they getting bigger and bigger?<br />What are you meant to learn?<br />What will have you stop and take stock and change your behaviour?<br />And yes, of course these are exactly the questions I am holding for myself.<br />Enjoy....Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-26583643845190320872012-03-26T07:58:00.003-07:002012-03-26T08:02:10.913-07:00Top 5 Regrets....Top Five Regrets, a colleague sent this to me today and I thought I would share it with you all ...... <br /> <br />For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. <br /> <br />People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance.<br /><br />Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. <br />When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: <br /> <br />1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the<br />life others expected of me.<br />This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. <br />It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it. <br /> <br />2. I wish I didn't work so hard.<br />This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply<br />regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a <br />work existence. <br /> <br />By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. <br /> <br />3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.<br />Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may<br />initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. <br /> <br />4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. <br />Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.<br />It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships. <br /> <br />5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. <br />They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. <br /><br />How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. <br />Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly.<br />Choose happiness.Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-81211772324493425772012-02-06T00:09:00.001-08:002012-02-06T00:45:13.022-08:00What is it to be present, without judgement?I'm just back from leading a Process Coaching weekend and I have been 'struck' by how hard most of us find it to 'simply be present to the moment that we are in'. It sounds simple doesn't it... So, lets give it a try.<br /><br />Firstly, find a time when you know that you won't be interrupted and you have a couple of minutes to just be. Now, find a place where you can just relax, you can be seated, lying or standing, it matters not a jot. So, find your place and your body position and start to get present to what is in the here a now, notice your breathing, is it shallow or deep, as you notice it and get present to it you may notice that you automatically start to breathe more deeply. Now, focus your attention on your breathing and simply notice the path of the air as it travels into your throat, past your larynx, down your wind pipe, through your chest, behind your heart and into your lungs. Continue to follow the path of the same air at it travels in the reverse direction back out of your body. For a simple and more detailed version of this see 'Taming your Gremlin' by Rick Carson, page 35ish.<br /><br />Now you should be present, so scan your body and put your attention on (or be present) to what you notice, from the top of your head, imagine that there is a body scanner slowly scanning the whole of your body, what do you notice about your brow, your temples, your nose, your jaw, your teeth, the skin on your face, are you relaxed or tense? As you notice any tension you might want to breathe into that part of your body and just let the tension go on the out breath.<br /><br />Continue to do this exercise and travel down the whole length of your body. The art of this exercise is to move your attention from in between your temples and focus it on your body. Get out of your head and into your body. Simply notice what you notice and without judgement, it is what it is..... and what it is, is just fine. Remember judging it, doesn't change anything at all. What it does do, is take you out of your body and into your head. Although 'heads' are lovely things, they are overrated in my opinion, we spend far too much time, judging and making things wrong or right, having an opinion etc on thing that don't actually matter.<br /><br />Practice being in the moment every day, the more your practice the easier it gets, you have to do something 28 times to create a new habit, and for 10, 000 hours to become masterful (or something like that) so, don't just stop when you have tried a couple of times and it doesn't seem to be working. Have tenacity and keep going, I promise it will get easier the more you practice.<br />The thing I want you to notice most of all is how your body feels when it is stress and tension free and know that, this is how were are meant to live our lives. This is our natural state of being and we create all the stress and tension ourselves from not being present to the moment we are in and judging ourselves and others to be good or bad, right or wrong, hard or easy etc etc.<br /><br />Here is an inquiry for you, What is it to be present? How would your life be different if you were present in each moment? To your kids when you are with them, to your work when you are doing it, to your customers, to your lover, to your friends and more importantly to yourself?<br /><br />What if, instead of judging yourself, you just noticed, what is going on with me? What am I noticing about myself right now? How is this working for me? Is this serving me or not?<br /><br />What do I mean by is this serving me or not.... OK is this working for me, is it helping me to stay calm and present, or am I making myself wrong, or anxious or stressed. If its the former, I would say it's serving you, if it's the latter I would say it may not be serving you.<br /><br />The present moment is rich and fulfilling and changes from moment to moment. In my experience the biggest gift we can give ourselves is to practice being present and 'in the moment'. Being in the moment does not require any preparation, being in the moment, you don't have to get it 'right or wrong' you just have to be.<br /><br />There is a reason why someone coined the phrase 'practice makes perfect' and for that matter 'analysis paralysis'. Take some time to practice being present and simply notice the impact it has on your life. If you get the urge, please let me know what you notice.Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-26499342779568061152012-01-15T01:45:00.001-08:002012-01-15T05:10:54.628-08:00Are you conscious of the beliefs that drive your behaviour!!What do you want? A simple question isn't it? Yet most of us are much more able to articulate what we don't want... I promise you, if you work out what you want and put your energy into that, your life will be so much more simple.<br /><br />What I am about to say may sound patronising, it isn't meant to. What I am trying to do here is to draw a distinction between two things that could sound the same, and yet they are very different.<br />So, here goes, this is about directing your energy towards what you do want....<br />I want to be slim as opposed to I don't want to be fat<br />I want to be look great in the summer, as opposed to I don't want to look fat in my bikini and so on, and so forth.<br /><br />After 10 years of doing this work and after writing my last blog I found a new Gremlin who created some amazingly logical self limiting beliefs for me. What I will say, is that my thoughts around this were pretty habitual and I wasn't very conscious about what I was thinking and the beliefs that were affecting my behaviour.<br />So, meet my latest Gremlin - he's called. You'll never be slim again.. (add a frown for good luck).<br />Here are the beliefs he made up....<br />I can't workout without an instructor<br />I have to workout with specific instructors (that I like)<br />(making sure I never find any new instructors, as I didn't go to their classes)<br />It's hard to lose weight over 40, so you'll just be fat and 40+<br />I can't run<br />I'll never be able to run<br />I can't workout on my own<br />I can't create my own workout plan<br />(I used to be a personal trainer and Aerobics instructor!!)<br />He is also lazy and told me that if I worked out 3 or 4 times a week that I could eat and drink what I liked... he was trying to be kind to me.... (or maybe not).<br /><br />So when I started thinking about where I had been putting my energy, I noticed that I was putting it into creating the work I wanted to do, travel, friends, creating the experiences I wanted to have in the future and not into what I wanted right now, which was not to carry so much weight, (that was taking lots of thought pattern and lots of internal dialog).<br />I decided to change the 'not carry too much weight' into being focused on getting fit, eating healthily and creating a sustainable diet that will mean I get into a specific pair of jeans that I love within the next couple of months. Sounds so simple doesn't it, and yet it has taken a lot of effort to, firstly realise what I was doing to myself and secondly, create the shift that really energised me into putting my energy into what I want.<br /><br />So, now I go to lots of classes at the gym I never went to before,<br />I run on the treadmill for 30 mins about 3 times a week<br />I have found new class instructors that I really enjoy working out with<br />and more importantly, I feel great.<br /><br />So 2.5 weeks in, I am 8lbs lighter (3.6ish kg) and am feeling great. It is six years this year since I stopped smoking and it is time to put my attention back on getting slim again. There is still a long way to go and I have my plan, it is not too ridged, as I find going from one extreme to the other doesn't work for me any more, so I have been out with friends, had the odd glass or wine or G&T when I wanted it and eaten some food which is not ideal and I've done it consciously and the weight is still coming off.<br /><br />So, over to you, where do you have a Gremlin that creates self limiting beliefs for you and therefore creates behaviour that Sabotages the things that would make you happy?<br /><br />Take a few minutes and ask yourself, what do I want? and am I putting any energy into it?<br />What are the Self Limiting Beliefs that stop me?<br />Do you want to choose something else?<br />I can't tell you the conversation I had with myself when I got onto the treadmill for the first few times (my Gremlin wanted me to get off, he didn't like it) and I just held on to my mantra - put your energy into what you want... that's what I kept thinking to myself and also I envisioned my 'target' Jeans. Classic Gremlin Taming I think you'll find... I can't believe I found a new one after all this time.....<br /><br />So, over to you. Let me know what you find and how you get on. Most of all ENJOY!Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-79257716860274438872011-12-17T02:03:00.000-08:002011-12-17T05:35:03.076-08:00Noticing where you are directing your energy....At this stage you will know that I am a great lover of putting my energy into what I want to create. It is also true that we get trained to put our energy into reacting to circumstances. One study that was completed with 4 and 5 year <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">old children</span> recorded their interactions and found that 85% of the time they were either being told not to do something or being told off for doing something wrong! We really do get conditioned to react and respond to circumstances others create.<br /><br />So here is a place to look to see where your energy is going..... you have to choose one of each of the following preferences.... ready??<br /><br />I prefer to be liked or I prefer to be respected.<br />I prefer to be in control or I prefer to take charge.<br />I prefer to be the expert or I prefer new experiences.<br />I prefer not to show emotion or I prefer to express my emotion.<br />I prefer to keep people at a distance or I prefer to be open to people.<br /><br />The former preferences are 'reactive' behaviours, the latter are 'creative' in Leadership Circle terms. Notice as you put your energy into your preferences, and know that every day you are creating your future. How do these preferences support you in creating the future you want?<br /><br />Do you want to try out some new preferences or maybe even start with an inquiry around one or two of them... explore the inquiry from every role you play in your life. Lets say you choose<br />'I prefer to be respected', then the inquiry you would consider is 'What is it to be respected?'. There is no right answer, only your answer. What would you be doing differently, how would you show up differently, how would people be treating you, how would it feel?<br /><br /><br />Another way to look at where you are putting your energy is to use the Wheel of Life.<br /><br />Check out the following Wheel ... and ask yourself which is the most important section to you?<br /><br />Personal Growth<br />Career<br />Money<br />Physical Environment<br />Friends & Family<br />Romance or Partner<br />Fun & Recreation<br />Health<br /><br />Now, ask yourself where is most of your energy going?<br />You can also look at which is least important to you and how much energy you are putting into that? Have it be simple use a scale of 1-10.<br />How are you doing in terms of Return on Investment?<br /><br />So, those preferences may have been true 'up until now' and today is the start of the rest of your life. Today you can choose something different - how exciting!<br />What preferences or areas of your life will you choose to put your energy into today?<br /><br />Have fun playing with this and enjoy the holiday season!Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-87077488943909960062011-11-22T23:48:00.000-08:002011-11-23T00:27:34.045-08:00What is Balance.....?This topic is coming up time and time again, in my coaching of others and in my own life too.<br />So, what is balance?<br />What does it mean to you?<br />Clients often ask me, do you mean work/life balance?<br /><br />In this blog I am going to have a stab of defining what it is and what it isn't - a balanced view perhaps! Unusual for me, don't you think!<br /><br />So, here goes.. Balance is part of Self-awareness, it is your ability to keep a healthy balance in the midst of the conflicting pressures of adult life - between business and family, activity and reflection, work and leisure. It is a measure of your tendency to self-renew and to be fueled by creative tension, which is the tension that gets created when you can see a way to achieve your values based vision. As opposed to the more common tension that creates stress and pressure which is unhealthy and self destructive.<br /><br />As adults we lead complicated lives and we do not have to be Martyrs or Victims of that - we do not need to let the complications and circumstances of our lives make the decisions for us. It is true that we get trained as kids and young adults on how to react and respond to the circumstances in front of us, so, no surprise really that we become masters and responding to the circumstances that others create. When you have a Values based vision of the future that you are committed to and that you believe in, this is the first step to creating the circumstances you want in your life. It is about stepping up to take charge of your life, as opposed to being 'in Control' - what ever that overused and misused phrase actually means!<br /><br />What does being 'in control' mean to you?<br />Are we ever 'in control' of anything other than ourselves?<br />What about 'taking charge' of your life instead? How would that be different?<br />In my work and in my experience, those of us who want to be 'in control' are the ones who are actually controlling.... who don't trust themselves, and therefore by default others to do the job.<br />They spend endless hours being busy and actually not getting very much done.<br />Taking charge means you know what the end goal is, you know what the impact is you want to have and you are both willing to role your sleeves up to help make things happen, as well as being willing to delegate to others to ensure the job gets done. I could write about this distinction between these two for hours, so I will leave it there for now.<br /><br />Back to balance......<br />If you have a healthy balance in your life, you are able to handle the stress of life without losing yourself. You are able to maintain high performance and an inner balance or compass by integrating the various aspects of your life. <br /><br />As a leader in your life you put your attention on your needs for self-renewal, family and leisure as well as work in order to be fulfilled and to maximise your impact, at home and work!<br />For health, true balance is needed, that is, time for reflection, diet, physical exercise. You know that values are often in competition requiring divided attention to spontaneity and control, family and work life, leisure and career, duty to others and personal development.<br /><br />Balance means that you have your conscious attention on physical well being, commitment to wholeness and on good time management to avoid the damaging effects of stress. Good balance aids you in remaining calm, considerate and in making good decisions under pressure. You are also aware of the bigger picture in terms of your relationships with others and the wider system you live in....<br /><br />Here are some of the things that help you maintain balance<br />- keeping things in perspective<br />- finding time for personal reflection and renewal<br />- maintaining a balance between work and family and work and leisure<br />- practicing good health habits around exercise and diet<br />- handling stress and pressure well<br />- demonstrating a high level of maturity<br />- knowing that work performance is about behaviour and not indentity<br />- being willing to say no<br />- being willing to question and debate things<br />- having clear boundaries between work and home and work and health<br />- using the 80/20 rule<br />- knowing you are more than good enough and that your intentions are good<br /><br />Where is your life in balance?<br />What are your boundaries?<br />What single habit could you change that would have the biggest impact on the balance in your life?<br />What are you making more important than balance?<br />What ever that is, is it helping you create the circumstances you want in your life?<br /><br />Here is a place to look - start to notice your habits around work, start and stop times, who controls your diary?<br />When do you book time for reflection? How do you prioritise your workload?<br />How do you used tools like email to help you do your job, as opposed to being a slave to them.<br /><br />Spend about a week, simply noticing and let me know what you notice!<br />EnjoyRonnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-83905099623689208932011-10-28T07:41:00.000-07:002011-10-29T10:20:31.913-07:00So, what's next on your leadership journey..........So, you have tamed those Gremlins, noticed those habits that no longer serve you. You have become more self aware by taking training courses, hiring a coach, doing some leadership activities and continually practicing all the skills you have learned.<br /><br />You are much more aware of who you are (self-awareness) and what's important to you (Values) you are making choices that serve the life you want to create (Vision of the future - based on your Values). You are noticing how you show up in relationship with others and the impact that you intend to have, you are also much more aware of who you are and how to be Authentically yourself. That unique amazing human being that was designed to be just perfect the way you are.<br /><br />So what's next? Surely the next place to look is - What is the impact you want to have in your world? or the World? and how do you go about it? This is where the Leadership competency of Systems awareness is really important. Even when you are conscious and intentional about your impact, you could argue you are still in level 1, in your own opinion, judgements and experiences etc where you are the centre of attention. What we are looking for is for you to open your lens to take in a wider view of the world. Lets say a Metaview, where you and your world are just a small dot on the landscape of life and where you can have a much bigger impact than the boundaries of your small world.<br /><br />With Systems awareness you are looking at the bigger picture, you are not just jumping in to fix symptoms. You look for the route cause. You are aware that the system design (be that work or life or even relationship, with yourself and/or others) and the way you operate is the cause of any issues or problems. You are also aware that it is new thinking and ways of being that will create a fundamental shift and you do not trying to work within the same old Paradigm(s). You know from within that you are able to create new systems, in any part of your life that will help you to naturally design the future you envision. You know that even making small changes in the current system will influence the outcome in the future.<br /><br />You are able to think bigger than just what you want personally, you are able to think of the wider system (family, organisation or relationship) and you are able to see the connection between the long term well being of the community and its delicate relationship with that of the system that is in place.<br /><br />If you score high in Systems awareness you know that you are an integral part of the whole, and that your actions both affect and reflect the systems larger culture. You are aware that cause and effect often are far removed in both space and time. It is clear to you that problems or issues can not be solved with the thinking that created them. You focus your legacy on contributing to the welfare of others and not on being remembered personally.<br /><br />You are aware that you personally are a complex system, a mix of light and dark, strengths and weaknesses and that you reflect the world around you. You, once again, accept that when you see parts of other people you find unacceptable that it is just a reflection and points to parts of yourself that you have been unwilling or unable to take responsibility for.<br /><br />Some of the behaviours that the above beliefs or operating system create are; you are aware that any relationship system needs to be constantly redesigned as we (those within the system) grow and evolve. You ensure that you have open dialogue about the long-term impact of current decisions. You take all the parts of the system into consideration when you start to plan your future, be it Organisationally, personally or in terms of your family. You include those people who are not directly in your system and try to consider the implications of your vision on them, even including them in the planning process - this could be Customer or Vendors if you are working within an Organisation or extended family or community members. You ensure that all the voices of the system are heard when making key decisions and you think about the wider impact of your decisions on the community and the environment.<br /><br />Where is your Systems thinking limited?<br />Where do you take others into consideration?<br />Where are you tolerating a lack of awareness in yourself and others?<br />What's the gift of taking a Metaview on your life or any decision you a planning to make.<br />How will slowing down help?<br />What is the bigger picture?<br />Where do you want to have more impact your your community, relationships or the world?<br />Enjoy xxRonnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-62316791403721489272011-10-03T10:23:00.000-07:002011-10-04T05:18:33.167-07:00The journey to Authenticity starts once you've established yourself in the land of self-awareness....This is where I have been trying to get to for about the last 10 years, to be real and Authentic. I know in my heart and soul that being more of who we are naturally (on the inside) is the key to inner peace and outer success. As I write this, one question that keeps coming up for me is.....<br />How do you tell people what it feels like, its really hard to explain essence, essence in Systems Coaching terms..... the Systems coaches out there will tell you that essence is so hard to describe because it is exactly that... un-describable. Yeh, so that's the question, how do you tell people about the power of Authenticity when you know, they don't know, what they don't know.<br /><br />For me Authenticity at the heart and is the heart of personal growth and human development. It takes courage to step into being more of who you are naturally, especially when most of us have allowed our Gremlins to run our lives for most of our time on this planet. Our Gremlins are more worried about what other people will think, and how they will judge us and whether or not we will succeed or fail and if we fail then what will happen....<br /><br />Imagine how it could be if you focused all that wasted energy onto who you are and what you want to create. That is, to focus your energy towards conscious, intentional impact. This is what I mean when I talk about Authenticity.<br /><br />Authenticity is your capacity to relate to others in an authentic, courageous and high integrity manner. It is a measure of Leadership that is an expression of your true self - not masked by politics, looking good or winning approval etc. It is also a measure of your willingness to bring up the 'un-discussibles' (risky issues that others avoid), you openly deal with relationship problems and share personal feelings and vulnerabilities about situations. Your inner and outer lives are congruent. Your behaviour matches your values and others trust that you can be counted on to keep your word, meet your commitments and deal with them honestly and fairly and remain true to your own purpose. Authenticity and Integrity are the qualities most desired in a leader. <br /><br />Below are the internal assumptions that create authentic behaviours in people.<br /><br />The internal assumptions associated with high levels of Authenticity are<br />- I am worthy whether people approve of me or not, whether I succeed or not<br />- Self worth, security and freedom and in my own hands<br />- I maintain my self-esteem and security by being true to myself<br />- My greatest source of power is my personal integrity (honouring my values)<br />- It is more important for me to be true to myself than it is to live up to other peoples expectations<br />- I am OK even if I make mistakes and hurt other peoples feelings<br />- I authentically admit my part in the problems we face<br />- The only way I lose face is by not being true to my Vision and Values<br />- Change starts with me, I must be the change I want to see in the world.<br /><br />With those internal assumptions the behaviours that I demonstrate are as follows<br />- Being trusted by others (you make people feel safe)<br />- Having high personal integrity<br />- Directly and clearly addressing issues<br />- Speaking directly to issues without trying to smooth things over<br />- Acting courageously in personal interactions and meetings<br />- Respecting others opinions even if you disagree with it<br />- Staying open and honest about what you think and feel (even when you feel under attack)<br />- Managing conflict directly and openly with authenticity<br />- Surfacing issues that others are reluctant to talk about<br />- Speaking openly and confronting peers and authority when needed<br />- Being counted on to meet your commitments<br />- Exhibiting behaviour that is consistent with your Values<br />- Living your vision even when it involves taking risks<br />- Taking responsibility for your part in relationship issues<br /><br />Where do you walk your talk?<br />Where do you struggle?<br />What happens when you are faced with inauthentic people?<br />How do you respond?<br />What is your role?<br />What is the value to you personally of being more of who you are naturally?<br />My Mantra is by being more of who I am naturally 'I can have more impact with less effort', that doesn't mean it is easy to undo the habits of the past.<br />What habits do you have left over from the past that no longer serve your vision of the future and the values you want to live your life by today?Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-85008657258395569872011-08-17T13:21:00.000-07:002011-08-17T13:43:57.352-07:00Finding a life of fulfillment starts with the journey to Self-awareness........If you score high on the self-awareness scale you will have some or all of these assumptions;
<br />You'll know that you are inherently worthy and you'll feel secure from the Inside out.... and you'll know that it is not made up of how others see you, or by how you perform.
<br />You know that inner development is the key to grow into more of who you are naturally and that we all, you included, contain a mix of strengths and weaknesses, of light and dark.
<br />You know that the key to accepting others is to first do the work of self-acceptance, which enables you to know that when you find things that are unacceptable in others, it reflects aspects of yourself for which you are not taking responsibility.
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<br />The behaviours associated with scoring high on the scale of self-awareness are that you will show composure under pressure, knowing that others judgement of you matters less than your own internal compass.
<br />You will be able to balance the demands of an adult life not sacrificing yourself or making yourself a victim or a martyr. You will not only be open to give and receive feedback you will openly welcome the opportunity to hear the impact your behaviour is having on others and strive to have the impact you intend.
<br />You will also be willing and able to provide direct non-blaming feedback. In fact you will strive to provide information on the impact of behaviour on you plus point the other person to a place where they could have greater impact.
<br />You are willing to admit your mistakes and use times when you fail as well as successes as a place to point yourself in terms of self-development.
<br />You are willing and able to laugh at yourself and your situation and you take time to understand your own and others motivations, strengths and weaknesses.
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<br />So, self-awareness is where the journey from reactive strategies to creative competency starts. How aware are you of your internal assumptions and the behaviour they create?
<br />Were do you solicit feedback and ask for areas of growth to focus on?
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<br />Or are you like me and say to yourself on a daily basis,
<br />'Oh no, not another f***ing learning opportunity'....
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<br />Enjoy your journey of self-awareness and treasure every discovery as an explorer would when they find a new Island, country or animal species, be amazed by the complexity of the human race and be curious about the parts of yourself that you have yet to discover!
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<br />Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-80414110510016814062011-08-10T05:00:00.000-07:002011-08-10T22:48:02.104-07:00What is Self-awareness and why does it matter....As I said earlier the Antidote to Protecting Strategy are the Creative Competencies of Self-Awareness, Authenticity and Systems Awareness. I will go on to talk about Self-Awareness in detail and before I do here is a reminder of the Assumptions and Behaviours that come from a learned and habitual use of the Protecting Strategy....
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<br />Assumptions are...
<br />for me to be right, others have to be wrong
<br />I am worthwhile if I am right and find the weakness in others
<br />I am valuable because of my superior capability and insight
<br />I am not good enough
<br />I am safe and acceptable if I remain small, uninvolved and avoid risk
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<br />and Behaviours those assumptions create are....
<br />Holding back and watching how situations unfold
<br />Identifying what is wrong, illogical or lacking in plans, people or situations
<br />Seeing the flaws in others thinking, feelings, speaking and actions
<br />Always analyising what is right or wrong
<br />Constant Judgement of self and others
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<br />The point of these blogs is to create the awareness that a fulfilled life comes from unlearning Reactive Strategies and re-learning Creative Competencies. A short cut to this is to get your Leadership Circle Profile done - so that you know where to start. Once you are certified in the TLC Profile, the Coaching Principles of Fulfillment, Balance and Process are the ideal tools to enable a coach to work with clients in service of their desire to move from the use of Reactive Strategies to Creative Competencies.
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<br />Anyway, back to the Creative Competency of Self-awareness as an antidote to the Reactive Strategy of Protecting.
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<br />Self-awareness is the on-going personal commitment to personal and professional development. It is also the degree to which your inner-self awareness is expressed through, balanced perspectives and high Integrity (values based) Leadership. This can be Leadership in your life and or Work, of your family, your community or your Leadership in fully expressing your lifes purpose. Please do not make the assumption that this is about Corporate Leadership only - it is that and it is much, much more.
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<br />If you have high Self-awareness then you have developed a sense of your life's purpose, you are vital and alive, you act from your internal compass (inner knowing, values etc). You consciously express your values in who you are being and what you are doing, you are trusted by others to 'walk your talk' and people respect you as someone who acts with Integrity (honours your values).
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<br />In addition, your sense of self-esteem is based upon an inherent appreciation of life as a journey of learning and development. You are not perfect and you accept that. In fact, you have a greater sense than most of your imperfections and you are always aware of making your peace with them.
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<br />You have the ability to be with the Paradox that shows up in yourself, others and the world. So, you accept the weak and under developed parts of yourself as a place to point yourself for inner growth, knowing that there will always be those parts in yourself and others.
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<br />You also admit it when you make mistakes and hurt others, and you use these experiences to improve your relationship with yourself and others.
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<br />You become less defensive when others criticize you, you are aware that the more you stretch yourself and follow your life purpose the more you leave yourself open to and available for the criticism of others.
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<br />You have less to defend because you are aware of the complexity within yourself, and this frees you up to engage powerfully and compassionately with others.
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<br />You lead in a way which strengthens the innate capabilities of others and when you see the weaknesses in others you are reminded of your own struggle to grow. Instead of Judging them you actually want them to grow and you actively want to be in service of their growth.
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<br />Others talents or successes do not intimidate you and this allows you to surround yourself with very capable people with whom you celebrate their achievements and growth!
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<br />How are you with holding the Paradox of right and wrong, strength and weakness, lightness and dark that lives within us all. Are you able to let go of living in a world of 100% either black or white, yes or no, right or wrong and invite the complexities of allowing these opposites to live within you and to allow them to live in the others around you??
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<br />Where are you on the scale of Self-awareness?
<br />More to come on Assumptions and behaviours.....
<br />Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-35712483686839470862011-07-28T06:20:00.001-07:002011-07-30T01:19:46.362-07:00What behaviours do those beliefs create in us and others.......If our beliefs are our 'operating system' then they drive our behaviours, they are the external expression of our internal assumptions.... so if the antidote to Protecting is Authenticity (and self and systems awareness - more to come later on those). Then what behaviour do those internal feelings of self-worth, strong self-esteem, personal integrity and personal power create.<br /><br />The behaviours associated with Authenticity beliefs are<br /><br />Being trusted by others, Having high personal integrity,<br /><br />Directly addressing issues that get in the way of relationships or team performance<br /><br />Speaking directly to the issues without smoothing them over<br /><br />Acting courageously in personal interactions and meetings<br /><br />Being able to respect someone else's opinion even if you disagree with it<br /><br />Staying open and honest about what you think and feel<br /><br />Managing conflict directly and authentically<br /><br />Being willing to bring up and talk about issues that others are reluctant to talk about<br /><br />Confronting people, including superiors, when needed<br /><br />Being counted on to meet your commitments<br /><br />Exhibiting personal behaviour consistent with your values<br /><br />Taking responsibility for your part in relationship and other problems<br /><br />Speaking openly in the presence of 'authorities'<br /><br />Living by an effective set of core values<br /><br />Holding on to your values during good and bad times<br /><br />Living your vision in every encounter even when that requires risk.<br /><br />So, you live your life Authentically, give real feedback, have real conversations and you admit your mistakes. You put yourself at risk for what you believe and value openness over popularity. Integrity and authenticity are what people trust the most. It is the source of your power!<br /><br />Now have think about how familiar these behaviours are and which beliefs they come from ... and notice they are not just what we expect of ourselves, this is who other people know us to be!<br /><br />We are digging in to the Leadership Circle Profiling tool here and the Adult stages of development. There is a certification programme for TLC in London on 22nd Nov if you are curious and want to get certified in this material. Of course the way to get certified is to get your own profile completed and see how you perceive yourself and what the gap is in between that and how others perceive you. Give me a shout if you are interested in either having your own profile done or attending the certification in London.<br /><br />During Certification you use your own profile to learn how to interpret the profile of others! It is very powerful work.<br /><br />Thanks for reading....Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4296725044055698659.post-59629788877832149882011-07-22T13:48:00.000-07:002011-07-22T13:57:02.346-07:00What is the antidote.....Internal assumptions are the beliefs you use to organise your identity... and the antidote to protecting behaviour is Authenticity. Some internal assumptions associated with Authenticity include...<br /><br />I am worthy whether people approve of me or not, whether I succeed or not<br /><br />Self worth, freedom, and security are in my own hands<br /><br />My greatest source of power is my personal integrity (being true to myself)<br /><br />It is more important to me to remain true to myself than to live up to others expectations<br /><br />I am OK, even if I make mistakes or hurt other peoples feelings<br /><br />I authentically admit my part in the problems we face<br /><br />The only way I lose face is by not being true to my Vision and Values<br /><br />Change starts with me, I must be the change I want to see in the world....<br /><br />More on the behaviours these beliefs create at a later date....Ronnie Clifford (MCC, TLCC, CPCC)http://www.blogger.com/profile/05043262211834702003noreply@blogger.com4